I remember stuff quite confidently.
I always say “if I remember correctly” both as “cover my ass” and also, bait for anyone who subscribes to “alternative facts”.
I usually won’t bother correcting you if you try to correct me, I’ll just let you be wrong.
Which is why people should stop saying it. It’s meaningless. Get to the point.
When I say it I mean it, like I think I’m right but not sure, so don’t take it as straight fact.
Not meaningless at all in my opinion
And others use the words as they mean. So it might not be polite. Depends on the listener.
I say it because my neurodivergent ass memory is my mortal enemy and decides on its own what to remember or not so I have about a 60% confidence on any statement unless it’s a special interest.
When I say that, it’s because I know my memory is terrible and I might be conflagrating multiple things into something new that only exists in my mind.
That’s so 🔥!
There are subjects in which I have formal training and extensive experience in. Here I speak with authority and don’t use slippery language; I may even cite sources.
There are other subjects that I read about once probably somewhere on the internet at some point in the last 25 years or so. Here I will phrase it as “If I understand correctly” or I might even pose it as a question inviting others to correct me.
I went to flight school during the time when we all thought System of a Down had recorded a song about the Legend of Zelda. If you don’t have an internal rating system about how reliably you “know” the things you “know” you’re probably not worth listening to.
I will use slippery language for every statement unless you are family or you are paying 100$/hr 4 hours minimum. And then I will phrase in terms of “the trade offs and decisions that are available to you and why”
You sound useless.
That may or may not be the case, it’s true that you get what you pay for but sometimes you also get more than you bargained for. Really, it’s up to you and your risk tolerance level about possibly over paying for advice or risk missing out on a valuable advice. Anyway, I’m not here to tell you what to do, because you’re paying me enough.
Lotta potential positions you could take with regards to that system, y’know. cracks epistemological knuckles, what ya got? How do you decide how much weight to attribute to a fact you heard someone else tell you? Who? In what context? That stuff doesn’t, I believe, have a pithy answer
We are in a post-trust world. We’re all probably better off just swimming out to sea.
Shit I never responded. But I hard disagree
See, if you can’t trust anyone, your ability
To fabricate a plausible model of reality
Is compromised.Nobody can interpret the world alone.
No small group can.
Too much is known.
There are subjects in which I have formal training and extensive experience in.
Grammar clearly not being one of them.
I kid. Sorry, I’m a sucker for low hanging fruit.
What fruit does grammar prescriptivist based dunking bear?
My college public speaking teacher was also so sure that “wuddn’t” is not a word. y’all gotta problem w’how I tawk can get axe fucked. I’m drunk enough to let out the drawl, c’mon nao.
I think a problem might be that even if you have an internal rating system, it’s still a spectrum and the other person doesn’t know what that percentage of confidence you have is. If you’re 95℅ sure, maybe you still want to communicate that it isn’t 100℅ since assuming you’re 100℅ sure might cause problems.
Things change all the time, even if it’s part of your field of expertise. Today, gorillas are technically monkeys and Pluto isn’t a planet, but lots of people are sure those aren’t true.
:/ that’s unfortunate. I say that because I’m iffy where I remember something from.
Same. It’s like a warning that I am possibly not correct.
My head leaks like a sieve.
I’m covering my ass, AFAIK.
Speaking of which, Allegedly and Alibi are great girl’s names. So is Agenda
The names have nice abbreviations, Alle, Ali and Gen
Sadly, for me in particular, I sort of remember and I’m probably right, but I’m ready to run away just in case it’s otherwise. My politeness comes from allowing others to correct me, which I do. Sometimes. Be honoured.
This is me 100%.
Though I’m probably right, I’m fine with being wrong. I don’t want to spread untruths. I’d rather learn the true thing and try not to forget it.
learn the true thing
Don’t forget some people would rather teach the false thing.
Same here, but I found that most ppl. overhear /do not register that I did in fact say ‘if…’ they go right ahead an presume I said :‘it is this way and I am correct’. Quite frustrating that.
I’m often using “if I recall correctly” when I don’t remember the source of that info
I also use it when I do remember the source, but it’s too much work to find it again.
It is a nice hedge for when you can’t be bothered to spend time looking things up to support a claim and don’t want people asking
There’s a non zero chance I’m in the matrix and nothing has ever really happened. I will never be 100% sure of anything.
But the one time I don’t say it I in fact did not remember it correctly.
I also do it to hedge, because even when I feel sure about something i acknowledge there’s a tiny chance i could be wrong
I add it because I’m always 99.99% sure I’m right but like I’m not gonna be the asshole confidently spreading misinformation.
Except for the few times I didn’t add it and ended up being wrong.
And then the person you’re talking to says, “Well I definitely recall and you are wrong.”
And that’s when you bust out the internet searches and see who is right.
And then they get mad because you humiliated them in front of all those people, and carry a grudge about it and say you’re vindictive and “have to be right about everything.”
Not everyone is like that, of course.
“You were very confident and I doubted my memory. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t spreading misinformation.”
One of the quickest ways to deflate the person’s argument, especially in a social setting. It makes you look humble and makes them look like an asshole if they keep going at it. If you want to subtley needle then, you can also apologize if they felt attacked by being corrected.
this. its like two types of people. I will never say anything is for sure. If I say 99% sure that is about the top for me. I recognize that there could be something untrue somewhere in my statements but I know other folks were if they are over 50% sure they definately know.
I say that to lower the expectations of me, so in the event I’m wrong, I could pass it off as “I misremembered”
Yeah cuz people who know they’re right are never wrong - ask any MAGA.
